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Thursday, January 11, 2018

Pre-Busy Season

We can feel the impending doom of Busy Season looming near, and so before it hits - we've done some fun things together to take advantage of being able to have David with us.

I'm being dramatic, in that I'm (Shantel) feeling better about the approaching busy season than I ever have before. The kids are at great ages. I'm feeling confident about our schedule. I don't have a million things (design-wise) hanging over my head like I have in previous years. But even all the confidence in the world doesn't mean that we're not going to miss this guy while he's working long hours this year.

A few highlights from our Pre-Busy Season shenanigans:

-Austin Date


 -Lydia Date
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-Family Bike Ride
 


-Natural History Museum of Utah






David is such a good dad to these sweet kids, and I'm grateful that it's important to him to spend a little extra time with them now - because he knows that he won't be able to spend as much time with them over the coming months. We all love this dad of ours, and he always manages to make each one of us feel important and valued. 

I know that I'm grateful that I have him by my side through this journey we are on. He works so hard to provide for us, and sometimes that means that his job requires much more time and energy. But even though it's demanding, he always has enough time and energy to show me that he loves me and our family. 

Busy season isn't our favorite time, but in some ways it makes me all the more grateful for David. Even so, we're already looking forward to summer! 

Wednesday, January 10, 2018

Caleb Samuel: 9-10 Month

Happy 10 months old little Caleb-baby. We loved celebrating Christmas with you this month and have enjoyed all the goodness you bring to our lives. That gummy smile of yours never fails to melt the grumpiest of hearts, you're solidly keeping your spot as everyone's favorite little person.
Official Stats: 
Weight - 20 lbs 8.5 oz (54%)
Length - 29.4 in ((71%)
Head Circ. - 46.5 cm (79%)

Stats: 3 month diapers. One (sharp) little tooth on the bottom middle-left. Size 12-18 month clothes. As his stats state, he's lonnggg (and he's got a big head) but he's not super chubby. Except, he kind of feels that way, considering that Austin was 20 lbs at his 2 year birthday! But really, 54% is a great place to be. 

(He had the worst reaction to his immunization shots and it's been so sad. He fevered for over three days with a runny nose that got into his throat and made him cough. Nothing bad enough to call the doctor about - but it's been so sad, especially because this is his first time really being sick. I guess I can't complain because he's been so healthy - but it's been sad!) 

Things to remember: 

-He's starting to crawl! He can't get up on his hands and knees yet, but he's figured out that he can use his arms to pull himself along. He started out slow, in fact - the first place that he ever really crawled was when I put him on my parents counter when we were there to help get ready for Christmas and he was able to pull himself along the slick surface to get to something that he wanted. I got it on video - so I'm excited to put that into his one year birthday video. It's especially fun because the first time I ever crawled was on my Grandma and Grandpa Walker's kitchen table. My dad told me that, and we all thought that it was great that Caleb and I both learned the crawl the same way. After that, he slowly figured out how to army crawl on the ground - usually not going very far. But at this point, he can get anywhere he wants - and relatively quickly. He's starting to push up onto his toes so his body is in a push-up/plank position and you can tell he'll be crawling on his hands and knees soon - he just has to build up enough muscle to move himself around. 
-With the crawling, he's also started to roll more again. For a while he all but stopped rolling altogether, but now he's a little mover and he's rolling quite a bit more. He still thumps his legs both when he's sitting up, and when he's laying down. He's so powerful at thumping his legs that the force of it frequently moves him backwards. 
(He's my little Primary Friend, hanging out with me at church - luckily he still stays right in our little corner without venturing too far.) 

-He's not quite strong enough to pull himself up on things, and hasn't figured out how to cruise around furniture yet - but he wants to stand up. If you go to set him on the floor, he'll keep his legs out straight and refuses to bend to sit. So we will prop him up by giving him something to stand up with and he's usually pretty happy about that (until he gets tired and doesn't know how to get down without falling backwards.) 


-He's an inquisitive little guy. Favorite pasttimes? Pulling out the wipes from the package and sticking his arms as far as he can under the couch to pull out stray pieces of popcorn/paper/marbles/crayons to put into his mouth. (ugh - now that he's officially crawling and putting everything in his mouth I'm realizing how much we need to re-baby-proof our house). At Christmastime, he pulled a whole roll of Christmas paper out and crunched and played with it for a significant amount of time. (It had water damage, so we weren't going to use it and we let him play with it. He was thrilled.) 

-He's started making some word sounds. Still only says "ma ma ma ma ma" when he's really sad, but if you ask him something he'll say "Yeah." Depending on what you're asking it sounds more like "yeh" or "uh" or "yah", but you can tell that it means yes. It's my favorite. 

-Christmas was just the best with him. He was so happy with all the paper and music and excitement.  I think between nine and ten months old is a pretty perfect time for a baby's first Christmas. Obviously he's way too young to understand anything, but he was old enough to enjoy it! 



-He has a lot of admirerers, and although he's happy to sit/explore by himself - he usually has someone nearby trying to hang out with him. (He's lucky to have so many people that love him.) And he likes people, too. If you are sitting on the floor, on the other side of the room from him, he'll crawl over and try to crawl on top of your legs/lap, usually trying to get at whatever it is that you're playing with. Playing Candy Land with the bigger kids has gotten exponentially more difficult, because he will stop at nothing to get at the game pieces/board.  

We sure just love him a lot. 

 -He's good at hanging out during our bedtime routine. In fact, he's started going to bed earlier than he was before and it's been so nice. We do Scripture-Song-Prayer together in the big-kid's room. Then at seven, Austin goes into his bed, Lydia goes into the other room to do some "journal coloring" and book reading, and I put Caleb down to bed. Then I come back to finish checking on the kids, and finishing the bedtime routine - but it's so nice that he's going to bed earlier because we are just starting David's busy season schedule and so I'm starting to do bedtime by myself most nights.
-He goes to bed at seven, wakes up when we are going to bed (he has a sixth sense of when I'm just about ready to get into my bed, doesn't matter what time it is), usually wakes up once or twice in the night, then I usually fall asleep in the chair with him about six or so until 7:30. It's not the best situation in the world, but I feel like he's old enough to start sleeping better so we're doing a bit of sleep training and that seems to be helping. He usually naps twice a day (morning and afternoon) and sometimes takes a short 30-45 minute nap around 5. One day he had woken up from his nap but I was still working on something and so I thought I'd just let him hang out in his bed for a minute, the kids asked if they could go in to him and I said yes - but a few minutes later I heard loud noises from the monitor and saw all three of them in his crib together. It was so sweet! Lydia was reading to him and Austin was talking to him. (I finally went up when Austin started climbing on the side of the crib and jumping back down over Calebs body. *sigh*
-He's started scruching up his face, especially when he's not thrilled about something. It makes me laugh, so he usually starts smiling after he does it because he's reacting to my laugh (he's a social laugher like Lydia and will laugh if people around him are laughing). But when he's upset about something, he scrunches his face up and looks like the grumpiest baby in the world. It's kind of hilarious.

-He's a champ to go wherever we go, and even though he's big, he does wonderfully in the baby carrier. He doesn't really sleep in it, but he's content to just hang out and watch whats going on wherever we are. #babycarryingforthewin

-He's such a great eater. I say this all the time, but it's true. It's amazing the food that he is good at eating with only one little tooth. His favorites this month: oatmeal (cooked just a little longer so it's not so wet and he can feed it to himself), frozen bananas, cooked carrots, rice & corn Chex. He doesn't like oranges much, but makes the best funny face when you squeeze some of the juice in his mouth. He's also started throwing food that he doesn't want over the edge. Not just scooting it off the edge, but grabbing it, and throwing it to the floor with force. Also, he won't eat food that you try to put in his mouth without him looking at it thoroughly. He has to inspect it and evaluate whether or not he wants it then he'll usually take it from you and put it in his mouth - and only occasionally will he allow you to put it in his mouth for him. 

-We went swimming, and again he made basically no noise the entire time. I held him while we were swimming in the deep end (and went around the lazy river about a thousand time), and he just watched everything and everyone. When we spent some time in the shallow end, he was pretty happy to splash the water with his hands!  

-He likes bathtime more and more - and he's even more stable than he was before so I like it too. He is entranced by the water coming out of the spout, then spends his time splashing and throwing toys. 

Oh my sweet Caleb. Words can't even express how much we love you. 
Happy 10 months Baby-C. 



Wednesday, January 3, 2018

2018 Here we Come!

This year, it's going to be a good one, I can feel it in my bones. We have a lot of great things that we are looking forward to, such as: Caleb's first birthday! (How is he almost a year already???) Lydia's Golden Birthday. (Golden birthday meaning that she turns Six on the Sixth. She's been planning it for months: Roller Skating at Classic Skating. A cake with "a Unicorn in the middle, Narwhals all around it, and doggie bones on the sides of the cake, and Gold - everything Gold- and around that, everything pink"-her words. And Pepperoni Pizza. And dessert.) Our Summer Family Vacation (we haven't decided where we're going - but we're going to go somewhere really fun. Maybe the Ocean in California, maybe back to Indiana.) And that's just the first half of the year! Good times are coming our way.


David already did a recap of his goals from 2017 at the end of the year, but I'll insert a portion of what he wrote here: 
1. First goal, was to be a better husband and father. I certainly had moments where I was not great, but...I think I truly accomplished this goal. Over the past year, I learned to be more patient. I listen better. I took time to build and play and chase my kids. I have so far to go- but I think the progress that I made this year, is now I understand where I want to go and how I can be the kind of father who my kids will know they can believe in and trust and we can have a bond through both joyous and troubled times. As far as being a better husband...I'm not sure if I was, but I do know that I love Shantel. She is my heart and my joy and I look forward to each moment I get to spend with her. I love the way she makes me laugh and she is my best friend and companion.
2. Blog more on Sunday. I think I started out the year strong on this and faded...probably something to work on. However, I am proud of this blog and the record we are keeping for ourselves and our posterity. Obviously Shantel does the most to keep things updated and I am grateful for that, however, I am proud of the help I give and the journal that this is of our family. We used to have a lot of people follow and read our blog. It was nice for family and friends to stay caught up in our lives. However, over the years fewer and fewer people have read our blog. We are not sure anyone actually reads the blog anymore. We are excited for this as we are trying to share more personal and important things about our family and our faith. Sometimes it is hard to share these challenges to the blog world. But now that it is just for us, it is nice to share our challenges as they happen and also the many joyous things we have. I hope that as we share these things we can build our own testimonies and inspire ourselves and hopefully for some future posterity, they can read our stories and be inspired in their own lives.
3. Focus on the keystone habits (powerful scripture study, prayer, and family home evening.) As far as scripture study- I had some great moments this year of truly powerful study- but these are too infrequent and my study is too inconsistent. I want to do better. I also want to increase the power of my prayers- and I don't think I accomplished that this year. I do think that we had a great year of family home evening. Frequently (most of the time) the lesson was put together the last minute, but more often than before we had powerful family home evening lessons that I truly believe will make a difference in the future. We are still working on this, but I think we really improved our family home evenings and had some great experiences.
Overall, I feel like I made progress and I will continue to move forward and do better each day.
David's Goals for 2018:

-Be outstanding
-Be organized

A few year's ago I decided on 4 things that I wanted to define who am I. Be outstanding, Be Diligent, Be Determined and Be Organized. This year, I want to focus on two of those. Be outstanding- an outstanding father, outstanding at work, better at taking care of each part of my life. Be organized- do more, make a plan on what to do and then do it so that I can take care of my family.



My goals were simple: 1, Have the transition to Baby #3 be a good one for everyone. 2, Set clear boundaries to protect my time and my family. 
I think that I was successful with both of these things. I don't know how much of Goal 1 ended up being because of me, but Caleb was everything I prayed for. Our transition was everything I hoped that it would be and I'm so grateful for him and the wonderful baby he has been. Over the year, I took a huge step back from many things that place demands on my time and my family. I scaled back RLD significantly, I stopped babysitting as much, I set up guidelines for myself for when I can say no and stick to that. 

One thing that I didn't write about as a goal, but is an area that I have felt a significant improvement in over the course of the year is my personal scripture study. I've spent more time in my scriptures truly studying and enjoying. It's been a blessing to me and I'm grateful for the time in the early mornings sitting on my bedroom floor (or the floor of my closet) with my scriptures and study manuals spread around me. 

Shantel's goals for 2018:
-Less complaining (own what I'm doing and do it happily). 
-More organization and delegation. 
-Quality one on one time with Lydia and Austin (and Caleb) every day. 
-No phone (or less phone) after David gets home from work.
-Faith and Trust in the Lord. 
*Cut out anything that interferes with these goals*

Sometimes when I'm writing goals, I feel very vulnerable because it's like admitting the things that I'm weakest at. (For example, I've never thought of myself as a complainer - but recently I've noticed that being more positive is something I need to be better at.) Hopefully the scriptural direction to be humble so that the Lord can make weak things strong applies as I humble myself enough to recognize the things that I need to work on - and pray that the Lord blesses my efforts. Hopefully when looking at these goals, one doesn't see the areas of weakness in my life - but instead sees the things that are of the most importance to me. 

A few weeks ago, the Sacrament Meeting Hymn was #170,  God, Our Father, Hear Us Pray. There is a line at the very end that has echoed through my prayers ever since. "Pardon faults, O Lord, we pray; Bless our efforts day by day." I feel like I am putting forth effort, but my prayer is that the Lord will bless those efforts every single day to be more than what I could make them be on my own. 

At this time of year, I love to go back and read my old goals, and I've been especially uplifted each January that I've been able to reflect on an experience I had in the temple in 2016. I'll include an excerpt here:  "At the temple this month (January 2016) during the prayer, a few words jumped out at me. 'We put our faith and trust in thee.' It was such a powerful statement. It wasn't 'Please help us to have faith and trust in thee.' It was a declaration of something that had already happened." I remember feeling like I needed to make a choice. I could live my life and the gospel at 90% - enough to gain the blessings and be involved in the great work, but trying to stay under the radar, afraid to commit myself 100%. The fear that by committing myself 100% I might be inviting harder trials, more work, and the attention of Satan. I felt the Lord asking me "Are you willing to make the declaration? Are you ready to commit yourself 100%? Do you have faith that I am more powerful than your adversary? Do I have your faith and your trust?" And, the answer is YES. I'm willing to let go of the things of the world, of the imaginary safety of staying under the radar in return for the eternal safety of being on the Lords side 100%. 

This post is turning into a much longer post than I expected. But, I was recently reminded that I don't know everything about the Gospel, and was surprised by the questions that so readily invaded my mind and challenged me. But re-reading this spiritual experience made me remember that I've already put my Faith and Trust in the Lord. I believe in Him. I believe in His Power. In my recent scripture study I've been studying about Nephi and his journey of faith. A verse jumped out to me "1 Nephi 11:17 And I said unto him: I know that he loveth his children; nevertheless, I do not know the meaning of all things." Nephi is such an incredible example of faith. He readily admits that he doesn't know all things, but the things that he does know - he holds fast to. He knows that the Lord loves his children. I am grateful for this blog and our blog books because reading back through I can see the hand of the Lord in my life. I can see Him in the spiritual experiences that I've had and the blessings that I've received. And I'm reminded that I've already made my decision, I've already chosen my course, "My faith and trust is placed in Him". I am on his side 100% and I will not waver.