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Tuesday, February 27, 2018

insta-february

insta-february
(a small glimpse into the tiny moments of our lives)

{2.1.18}  #walmartgrocerypickup for the win this morning! Had to grab groceries before taking Lydia to the bus for school or we wouldn't have any food for the next week. Ha. Pulled in at 8:01 and they were already outside waiting for me. He finished loading and wished me a good day at 8:03! You guys. TWO minutes! For a week and a half+ of groceries. We were back in time to unload all the bags before having to get to the bus. This is the best way to do grocery shopping, ever. #busyday #walmartfan#notashamed Oh, and I fed the kids breakfast in the car and they were happy campers. #winning

{2.8.18}   People ask if having the train run behind our house bothers us, and it doesn't really. But even if it did, it would be worth it for this view! Life isn't perfect, but there is beauty in the mundane and between the difficult moments. Grateful for Austin's gasp during dinner "the clouds are pink!" - and that the sun will come back up to a fresh new day. #sunset


{2.10.18}  11 months old! 😭😍😭 I'm not ready for my baby to not be a baby anymore. But man, we sure love this boy.

{2.14.18}  Midnight Blog-2-Book-ing. I love the process of going through our blog posts and pictures from the last year and printing them out in book form. (If only we could ever finish before midnight the day our coupon code expires.) Especially grateful for @davidpeaden who always takes such huge load of the work from blogging to making the books. Couldn't do it without him, and I love that it's a team thing. We use this as our journal and it is precious to me. #thepeadenlife #blogbooks#volumeVIII #journaling


{2.14.18}   David and I "met" on Valentine's Day ten years ago. (So this is technically our 11th time celebrating together.) I didn't know then that the boy who listened to me rant about the holiday, visited me at work, brought me brownies, and hung out with my chocolate-crazed rooomates would become my best friend and the most important person in my entire world. (Sometimes I feel real stress about what would have happened if we hadn't just happened to be crossing paths that day by the Quad at Utah State!) A shout out to all those who are celebrating this special day with us! 😘

{2.18.18}    Life is rarely this picture perfect, but when it is, you better bet I have my camera ready (even if it is the rear facing camera on my phone because we don't have a real camera anymore and my forward facing phone camera is broken). #sundaywiththepeadens This week I listened to President Nelson's talk about the Sabbath Day and I felt a love for this special day where we get to focus on time with our family and on our worship. Grateful for the blessing it is in my life. Also, I gave Austin this haircut #thankyouYouTube and I kind of love it. There are a few shaggy spots on the side that I need to fix, but I'm learning! (Cutting girl hair is easier than boy hair because girl hair is more forgiving.) #somanythoughtsonasunday


{2.21.18}     Hey Little Blue, we hope you like your new digs! 🐟 🌊🏝️ We"won" this betta fish at a Christmas White Elephant gift exchange. The kids have been thrilled since day one 😍... It's taken me longer to come around, but it's safe to say I've grown quite attached. ♥️ After a couple of months, we finally upgraded her to a legit fish bowl and we're all happy about it! Credit goes to @rencher_smile for the fish and @melissashaye for the fishbowl. #peadenpets #probablyouronlypet


{2.19.18}    Snowstorm. ❄️❄️❄️The kids insisted on going out. They lasted longer than I thought they would, almost five minutes. They could barely walk it was so deep. Considering there wasn't ANY snow yesterday, it's a crazy difference. Thank goodness it's Presidents Day, because I don't think I would have sent Lydia to school anyway! Grateful for our warm house today.


{2.26.18}     This is a picture of Lydia next to a bag of random stuff that we took to the DI today. Why? Because she can. not. handle it when we sell/give stuff away. Literally tears and tears if she's there when someone picks up old cardboard boxes, and you don't even want to know her reaction when I sold a bunch of baby toys/books that we have never really used. The only way we've found to get around it is to take a picture of her and the stuff so she can remember it (and then we promise that maybe we can buy another one just like it again... Later...). She's got a sensitive heart, this girl. She really does. #hoarderinthemaking

Sunday, February 25, 2018

The Key to Parenting

It took just under 6 year's, but Shantel and I have done it, we have figured out the key to parenting.

Okay- not really- but I do feel like we have learned so much over the past 5 years and are learning more each day about being a great parent. So I thought it might be nice to share one small nugget that we have been learning lately.

Obviously the true key to parenting is to do your best, to love your children and to give them time.

However...what we have just come to learn is that if something is not working, then change it. Sometimes as a parent you just get frustrated because your kids won't go to bed, or won't eat their dinner or won't {insert anything}.

Sometimes even a small change can really turn things around. Just a couple of small examples from recently.

-Our kids have always been really good eaters- but they do tend to get a little grumpy after 5 pm and especially if I am not home then Shantel really has a lot on her hands. Recently Shantel starting moving dinner up from around 6 to 5:30 pm. She noticed the kids were much happier and things went even better.
-Multiple times over the past year Lydia has had a hard time going to sleep. For a long time, we just suffered through as she got out of her bed and came downstairs a million times each night. Then we made a chart where she did 15 minutes of listening, 15 minutes of reading, 15 minutes of journal (coloring), and then 15 minutes of cuddling with a stuffed animal. Immediately things got so much better. When she started struggling again, we changed and she did something very similar, but she was in the guest bedroom and we moved her to her room after Austin fell asleep.

I know these may seem small, but recently we have had numerous examples of changing just the smallest thing and it having a big impact. I think that a lot of that inspiration comes from Heavenly Father and I hope he will continue to bless us to know how to care for our dear children each day and help us to know when a tiny change might make their lives even better.


Dear Caleb,

Dear Caleb,
I had such a wonderful time with you tonight. You were covered in chocolate pudding after dinner so I decided to put you in the bath while your Daddy did bedtime with your siblings. You always love the bath, but tonight you were especially thrilled about splashing in the water. After getting you all cleaned up, I sat and played with you for a while. There was a little bath toy, a ball, that we played toss with over and over and over. I'd squeeze out the water, then toss it into your lap. You'd giggle, grab the ball and then throw it back to me. After a few throws you'd get so excited that you'd splash your hands in the water while laughing. I started being funny and I'd grab the ball and pull it up by my shoulder then hand it back to you. You would grab it from my hand, pull it up by your shoulder then put it back in my hand - mimicking me. It just about melted my heart.

Moments like this are special to me. Your siblings demand a lot of attention and although they shower you with a massive amount of love, moments with just me and you are fairly rare. I try to take advantage of the minutes that we get. You are special to me, sweet Caleb-love. I'm grateful for your sweet hugs, your baby laugh, and the time that I get to spend with you. I'm lucky to be your Mama.

Love,
Mom

Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Our First Date, 10 years later....

This February marks ten years since our first date. On Valentine's Day 2008, we ran into each other on campus and even though we already had known each other casually, something clicked. David came and spent the evening at my computer lab while I worked then walked me home and spent some time with me and my pink-and-chocolate-crazed roommates where he handled us all with charm and ease and showed off his awesome skills of being able to fit through the tiny space between his folded arms while holding onto a broomstick. He asked me out for our first official date soon after, and in the best decision I'd possible made up that that point in my life - I said yes. 

As part of David's Christmas gift this year I pre-planned 12 dates for us to go on. February's date was a clever copy of our first date, ten year ago. A gift card to Chilis, $$ to go bowling, and a RedBox coupon code as a nod to the time we spent at the Blockbuster (David says that maybe it was Hollywood Video?) browsing movies while we waited to be seated at Chilis, and a couple of notecards for each of us to make a set of conversation starters. I also included an excerpt of where we had written out our first date when we engaged to read (Posted on March 1, 2009)



February 22, 2008 Logan, Utah
The question of whether David would be able to handle the crazy girls in PineView #3 {specifically me} was answered soon after when David asked me on our first date. I said yes, and was very excited. When I asked for her phone number she sounded excited, when I asked her out and she said yes, she did not sound all that excited, more... surprised that I was asking. At least she said yes. As I was getting ready for the date I couldn't decide what to wear and ended up borrowing a shirt from my roommate Cassie. (This is important for two reasons. 1- The shirt that I wore was brown with white polka dots and plays a role later on in the story [be patient], and 2- I had two shirts that I switched off wearing on the first dates that I went on. I felt comfortable in them and they were cute. I had worn one or the other on every first date I had gone pretty much the whole year. They were labeled as my "first date" shirts and it was unusual that I didn't wear one of them.)
I went into the date not knowing what to expect. I half-thought that it would be another first date that didn't go anywhere. However, the second that he picked me up I could tell that something was different about him. We went to Chili's and then bowling (my mom's number one date idea, points for David). I was completely blown away by how amazing this boy was. He was cute and funny and kind and amazing. Most of all... he understood me. We connected on a level that I had never even dreamed could be reached on a first date. I laughed the whole time, and at the end of the date there was no question of if there would be a second date... only when it would be. 
It really was such a fantastic first date, mostly because of how amazing Shantel is. We were able to talk so easily. We waited about 45 minutes to get a table at Chili's, and talked easily the whole time. We chatted during dinner, and then during bowling, we had to wait for another 45 minutes. Which usually, it might be tough to keep thinking of things to talk about on a first date, but we had no trouble. One of Shantel's favorite things to talk about is how she beat me at bowling on our first date. The first game we tied, the second game she won. However, of course she was going to beat me, I was really distracted by how wonderful she was. In fact, the reason she knew there would be a second date is because I was making it pretty clear that I would be asking her out shortly.
When reading through the brief recap that we wrote back in 2009, I was surprised that some of the things that I remember most about the date are not included at all, and some of the things that we did record - I'd completely forgotten. So, we decided that it would be fun to write down our memories of our first date, ten years later!


David's Perspective: 
It was really interesting looking back at what we posted in our wedding series about our first date, because most of the things that I remembered were not even in there. It was fun on our date to talk about those things that we remembered about that date. Here are some of the things (big and small) that I remember about it:
-While we were waiting to be seated at Chili's we walked across the parking lot to the Hollywood Video (movie rental store) and looked through movies and chatted while we waited. While we were talking about favorite movies, Shantel told me that she does not watch PG-13 movies. I remember thinking, that is interesting and this girl seems really good. 
-I ordered a steak, which was a big deal for me, because I rarely went out to eat on dates and certainly tried to order something less expensive if I did. Not that Chili's steak was so expensive, but it was $2 or $3 more. I have no idea what Shantel ordered. I do remember how much I enjoyed talking to her. That was my favorite thing. I joked about have a date notecard that I was using to help with the conversation and it made it even more fun. 
-When we were bowling I remember specifically giving her a high five one time for a good bowl and then as our hands come down, just holding my hand against hers for an extra 1/4 of a second. Shantel was beautiful and kind and fun and I knew I wanted to go out with her again. 
-Shantel reminded me on our 10 year date that during dinner I talked about hiking to the top of Mount Timpanogos over the summer and talked about how we should do it together during the next summer.

Shantel's Perspective: 
David mentioned most of the things that we talked about on our date. A few more details from my perspective: 
-I specifically remember David joking about how he'd made a notecard for conversation topics/questions to make sure that things kept going smoothly. It is exactly the kind of cheesy and slightly-awkward joke that he tells that still makes me laugh today.
-I usually didn't tell people on a first date that I don't watch PG-13 movies. It was just a hard conversation because too frequently people were offended by it - like they thought that I thought that they were bad people. I didn't, and still don't. It's just a personal choice that has been an incredibly positive thing in my life. When we weren't seated at Chilis right away, we walked over to a video store. (I remember it being a Blockbuster - but whether it was Blockbuster or Hollywood Video, it's SO crazy to me that there isn't a single movie-rental store left. I should probably detail out for posterity that this was a store where you could go roam the isles and select from hundreds of movies mostly DVDs at this point, although I'm sure there was still an isle of VHSs. You'd pick the movie you wanted to rent, pay for it at the front desk, then have to return it 5-7 days later. ) It was fun to browse the movies and point out our favorites and talk about genres that we both liked. But I was definitely nervous because I knew the conversation would have to end up with me saying that I didn't watch PG-13 movies. David's reaction might be one of the things that I loved most about him from the very start, because he didn't get worked up about it. He didn't make it a big deal. He asked a few honest questions and then accepted it and moved on. Over the course of our dating, he ended up adopting the standard, and although I won't say that we've always made stellar media viewing choices, I think that it set a precedent that has blessed our marriage and our family. (I always hoped that I'd just marry someone who could respect my decision even if he still watched movies with his brothers/friends/whatever, but I couldn't have imagined what a blessing David would be to me.) 
-I went on a lot of first dates and very few second dates, and even fewer third dates. So even though I had a good time and was fairly confident that David would ask me out again (mostly because he was dropping hints that he'd like to ask me out again), I think I was still surprised when he did ask me out. I still feel a tiny bit surprised that we ended up together. (Then the panic sets in, because what if we hadn't ended up together??? I'm just so so lucky to have him.) 
- I do not remember winning the bowling match. But my mom always said that bowling was the best first date, and I remember laughing about how he was already getting points there. And I like bowling.

It's a little crazy to me that we're starting to hit all of these 10 year landmarks. Ten years is a long time! But I also feel like this boy has been a part of my life for all of my life. I guess my heart was just holding space for him and when I finally found him, he fit into that spot so seamlessly it's hard to remember life before him. (Cheesy? I know. But that's what he loves about me, right?)

Happy 10 year mark darlin'! I'm so lucky to have you in my life, then and now.

Wednesday, February 14, 2018

Valentine's Day

Happy Day of Love! And who do we love most at the Peaden Home? 

These kids. 

We kept things pretty low key, but we did squeeze in a few Valentine gifts. You can see some stickers from the Target $ Spot, notebooks we got on clearance in January, and candy canes that we bought for their stockings and then kept in our closet when we decided that they didn't need any more candy for Christmas. They loved it all. #valentineswin

We also managed some Valentine-heart hair, and some pink heart pancakes. I don't think I have a picture of this and I'm SO sad that I don't, because Lydia made her own valentines for her classmates. We bought 4x6 blank white notecards and she colored each one very carefully and taped a small Valentine themed bookmark/ruler that she had picked out at the store. Each card had pictures, lots of coloring, and a note that said "I love you. From, Lydia." 

Earlier in the week, I posted on Facebook volunteering to babysit kids so other parents could go on a Valentine's date (charging $10 a child). So Valentines night, we had a special Valentine Party with a whole bunch of kids. We had pizza and jello-jigglers, made a little heart craft, and watched a Valentine show. It was great - the kids had a great time, and I'm excited for the extra $$ that we have to spend on something fun, 

Because we knew that we weren't going to celebrate ON Feb 14th, David made me a special dinner the Sunday before. I requested Hawaiian Chicken sandwiches and they were A+. I have Steak Bites and Twice Baked Potato Casserole on the meal plan for tomorrow night as a special dinner for David. Our love languages involve service... and food. <3<3<3


We were also able to go on a date last Saturday. It's been 10 years since we met, and this is our 11th Valentines day together. Rather than go too in depth on that in this post, I'm going to write a separate post talking about our 10 years together and what we remember from that first day together and from our first date. But it needs to be said here, that I am SO incredibly lucky to have this man in my life. He means the world to me, and I will always take advantage of every opportunity I have to celebrate him and this love that we share. 

Happy Valentine's Day, from those of us here at the Peaden home, including from this littlest Valentine of ours. He has our hearts and we love him!

Sunday, February 11, 2018

Caleb Samuel: 10-11 Months

Does it get old to have to read month after month about how one can't believe that their baby is getting so big? Because, listen, my baby is 11 months old and I just don't think I'm ready for that first birthday! It's hard to believe that Caleb is almost a year old, but, oh, what a wonderful 11 months we've had together. I've said it before, and I'll no doubt say it again: If all babies came at this age - I wouldn't be able to stop myself from having a hundred babies. It's just such a great age and I'm loving ever moment with this boy. 


Stat: 18 month clothes. 1.5 teeth. Size three diapers. The biggest smile. :) 


Things to remember from this month: 

-Still our happy-to-be-along-for-the-ride baby. He plays pretty independently at home, especially now that he's truly mobile. I'm grateful that he's not super clingy, instead he's just content to be with me out and about, or having time to play by himself at home. (Sometimes I think that he likes the alone-time, because when his siblings are home and "paying attention to him" it's a lot of attenton. I'm sure it's nice for him to have some down-time. Ha. 

-He likes to be involved in what you're doing - and now that he's mobile, he's determined to pull himself over to be in the middle of it. (Playing Candyland is basically impossible unless he's down for a nap, because he wants ALL the pieces and wants to be laying on top of the board.) 

-My dad went on a mission to Arizona, and part of that he served on an Apache and Navajo Indian Reservation. We had a FHE about missionaries, and my dad sent us a video message about his testimony and his mission and some of the things that he still has from when he served. One of those things is a baby-cradleboard. So the next time we saw him, he pulled it out and we put Caleb in it. This is what the Indian parents would place their little babies in to keep them out of the dirt and carry them around. (You can hold it over your shoulder, or lean it up against a tree/hut.) Caleb wasn't thrilled about it - but it was fun to have my Dad tell us all about it and use Caleb as an example. 



-He's not pulling himself to a stand yet, but he's getting ready to do that! 

-Park Date! This winter has been unseasonably warm and we went on a little family adventure to the park. Caleb liked the swing until I started taking pictures of him then his face was less impressed. But I see a whole lot of Park days when the weather starts warming up for real. 


-He discovered door stops and how much fun they are. He'll sit for an incredibly long time sitting next to a door stop and playing with it (batting his hand against it to make it vibrate back and forth). Occasionally he'll get it off the wall, and then where does it go? Into his mouth. Every. Time. 

-Okay, these pictures are SO deceptive. At this point, both Lydia and Austin were walking. Caleb isn't really interested in that yet, which is totally fine! But, the funniest trick he does is that if you stand him up against the wall, he will stand there for as long as it takes until you move him down. He can't stand on his own, and even if you stand him up against a chair or table, he's just barely figuring out that he doesn't have to hold on with both hands (his face is the best when you set him up against a chair then put some snacks on top of it. It takes a lot of concentration for him to lift up one of his hands to get to the snacks!). But because of the way his weight is distributed when he stands, he's incredibly stable leaning up against the wall. We get a kick out of setting him up and showing off his trick to other people. (I don't think that most babies would be able to do this. But he doesn't lean forward or fall down, he just stands there, happy to be standing almost-independently.) 


-Other tricks that he's learned this month include: raising his hands while we sing "Jesus Wants Me for a Sunbeam", clapping with us, and folding his arms while we say prayers. He's such a good mimicker, and even without us teaching him, he's caught on to these things. My heart about exploded when we were saying family prayer and everyone folded their arms and I looked over and Caleb was folding his arms, too. Now he'll do it on command if you say "Caleb fold your arms like this", immediately followed by clapping when you cheer for him because it's so cute. He's even started mimicking the word "amen" at the end of the prayer. I think this is probably his first word other than mammamamamama. At the end of the prayer when we say "Amen", he makes the sounds "Am-eh" and it's darling! 

--I mentioned that he's not really standing or cruising or anything. But his biggest accomplishment this month is transitioning from army crawling to hands-and-knees crawling! I'm so proud of him, and love that he's at this stage right now. For most of the month, he would only army-crawl - which actually wasn't much of an army crawl. Rather, he would put both of his hands out, then use his toes to propel him forward. By the end of the month he could get up on his hands and knees - but he switched back and forth between the two types of crawling pretty interchangeably. I wanted to illustrate this, so I set up my camera, (which he loves) and let him crawl toward it. If I started him on his tummy he would army crawl, but if I set him up on his hands and knees he'd crawl-crawl. 


-Crawling + pushing himself up on things = Adventures/Getting into Trouble. 
His latest adventure? Trying to crawl into the space where his toy bin goes. There was a ball at the very back of it and he wannnnnnnnnted that ball. Except when he reached it, he couldn't figure out how to get out. He started grunting/whining and being the loving mother I am, I came over and started taking pictures/video of him. (It's going to be perfect for his 1-year video.) He figured it out though! I didn't help him get out, eventually he pulled himself out. He didn't manage to keep hold of the ball though, and after he was out - he realized it was still in there and was a little bugged. He made the attempt to grab it, but when he realized he'd have to go back in, he gave up. So I, being the loving mother I am, pushed it to the front so he could get it. He was so happy. 

-We have not sleep trained this little guy yet. But we've gotten into a pretty good schedule, and so it's been fine. Except that he just started sitting up in his crib. Up to this point, if I put him down on his back, he would lay there on his back the whole time. Even if he fussed before he fell asleep, he'd stay on his back, and when he woke up, he'd just stay there until I came to get him. But he just figured out that he can sit up in the crib and it's kind of a problem. I probably should have sleep trained him before we hit this point because it would have been so much easier! *sigh* oh, well. 
Our basic sleep schedule right now is: Nap at 9:30, Nap at 2:00, Bed at 6:45/7:00, Wake whenever mom lays down to fall asleep in her bed (doesn't matter what time, but he can sense when I'm ready for bed and closing my eyes - anytime between 9:30 and 11:00.), wake usually once more before morning although the time isn't super consistent. Then wake for good about 6:00ish. I try to read my scriptures at this time before the other kids wake up. I have a pile of toys on my bedroom floor for him to play with while I sit with my scriptures/study manuals.  

-I feel like a lot of things that I've been writing about this month have to do with Caleb's newfound mobility, but probably one of the biggest changes - and most heartbreaking for Austin - is that Caleb has very little patience anymore for Austin laying in his lap. Austin used to come up to where Caleb was sitting and lay himself across his legs. Caleb loved it because he could play with Austins hair, grab at his face, chatter, and laugh. Austin was in heaven. He loved it all. But now, Caleb wants to be crawling and moving and does not like Austin to bug him. It's been a hard transition, because Caleb used to like it - but now he doesn't and Austin doesn't understand. He comes up and lays on his lap, and Caleb complains and tries to crawl away, and Austin continues to roll over and it ends up in a big heap with Caleb very  unhappy and Austin insisting that "he likes it!". It's sad for Austin, and sad for me, because it was such a sweet thing to see my boys doing. But the moment has passed. Austin's tiny personal bubble is going to have to expand to fit in Caleb's newfound freedom. 


I love these kids. Also, matching little boys are just as fun and darling as matching little girls. I have been repeatedly surprised at how much I love to match these boys together. And if possible, I try to get Lydia to coordinate, too. Just because I like it. They're just so darling. 


-If he doesn't want something, he shakes his head emphatically so that there is no doubt. 

-Another random, and funny, quirk he's developed this month: He won't eat something that you try to put in his mouth. You used to be able to take a chex/cheerio and place it directly in his mouth. One of Lydia and Austin's favorite things to do is play "feed Caleb". But now, you must place it in front of him so he can examine it, grab it with his hand, and place it in his own mouth. 


Happy 11 Months, Caleb-baby. We love you so much. We just really, really, do. 

Happy 11 Months!